RELATIONSHIP ADVICE: WILL SMITH

If You Marry Your Best Friend, You’re Good
Every man wants to marry his homie, Will explained. A lot of women will impress them, but it’s the one they can always laugh with and be themselves with that will ultimately impress them the most. If you can be yourselves around each other, 100 percent of the time, and they can make you life like no one else can, you’ll never have a dull moment together.

Remind Him of What He Has
When you start to feel that you’re nagging your husband to the point of no return and nothing you’re saying is getting through, Will suggests you try a new approach. Hold him close, look him right in the eyes, and tell him that you love him, you’re right there, and you always will be, BUT you need him to pick his socks up – right now. As Will puts it, it’s important to remind him that your request is coming from a good place, and what you want is a small thing in the grand scheme of things. Um, genius!

All Men Need A Little Space
“If you don’t give your husband thirty minutes to himself when he first gets home he’ll stop coming home,” Will told me, straight up. (You’re thinking, no way, right? I did too!) When I asked Will when a wife was supposed to say her piece, he responded, “anytime after that.” Will reminded me that everyone’s home needs to feel like a happy place, and it won’t if you’re “greeted with negativity” every time you enter the door. Touché Will. Talk about a pause for the cause.

Focus on Balance and Excitement Always
According to Will and Jada’s way of thinking about marriage, maintaining a happy union isn’t just about making time for one another, it’s about making the time count too. Excitement and mystery are everything, he said. Surprise them, let them know you love them, laugh together – whatever it takes to put a smile on their face.

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I can say from experience that this is all great advice. Especially giving space. I know that when my man comes home that he has to settle down for bout an hour before asking for help. Just imagine if you just got home and you were asked to clean and cook as soon as you walked in the door and didn't get a second to cool off. So sometimes we need to think of it as if we were in their shoes. And being with someone who is your best friend is truly your soulmate because you will always stand up for them, even over your family. It's not like your marrying your parents, your marrying your best friend to be with everyday. I hope everyone takes this to heart.

Celebrity Mama: Alicia Keys

This was interesting to hear her view on motherhood.

On being a mom
The past year has been incredible; just so many blessings, being able to be a mommy, being able to be a wife and just really finding my center and my place of comfort and knowing myself and feeling really solid. Being a mom is like, spectacular. It’s the most fun I’ve ever had, period. I feel like I’m having more fun than I’ve ever had in my whole life. I feel like I’m definitely more creative. I’m more thoughtful about my plans and the things that I do, so overall everything is like a hundred times better. I’m loving the process and I plan for it to continue to grow as time passes.

On not getting any sleep because of the baby
I never was one to get a lot of sleep anyway, because of the nature of what I do and how much we fly and how much we work. So honestly, I’ll tell Egypt, That’s all you got?! You only got waking up every three hours, that’s it? C’mon! I guess in a way, I was built for it.

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In Canada!!

I am so happy to be in Canada staying at my moms and working for my dad at the dental office. I clean chairs after patients. I get to wear scrubs. Mom went crazy shopping for baby again. But hey that's what grandma's are for. Chris asked me does it seem different now that you are home and your a mom? Not really. I still feel like the big sister telling everyone what to do. And my baby is like a sibling but just a baby. My sisters love taking care of her. But not as much as my mom. Beautiful loves everyone by smiling at everyone. I have so many people to see.

The "Homemaker"

Honestly I have always dreamed of being a stay at home mom and raising like 5 kids. I wanted to be the most awesome woman by having everything done and be the most loving wife and mother. I really think it came from my mom and grandma. I was blessed to have mom that stayed at home. And I remember that she had learned so much from my grandma like sewing, cooking, baking, cleaning, etc. I think society has changed its views to become very negative to women that love this lifestyle.

I have come to realize now that I am not fully satisfied with being a full time homemaker. I think it comes from living a blessed life of doing so much in my life at one time. Such as college, work, dancing all at the same time. So I have decided that I will work but I will start my own business that way I have my own schedule. I will reveal later what business I am going into. I have already mentioned it to very close family because I believe words have power. And if you say it then you mean to live up to your word.

Now let me say I admire the skills to be a homemaker because I think those are skills that are slowly diminishing from the home. Which then forces families to pay others to take care of those needs. When you have those skills it allows you do it for yourself. Which makes you more independent. I know of some girls that don't know how to do their own laundry or cook anything. So EMPOWER yourself with some basic skills and maybe learn a little more. I know I want to learn how to make bread. And I love to sew. Wait and see once I get a sewing machine it's on!!

Inspired from the book that I want to get: How to Sew a Button: And other Nifty Things Your Grandmother Knew

Baby"Fat" - Getting my Hot Mama On

So my baby is been out this belly for 6 months now. But the past couple weeks I have been more conscious of my eating and drinking habits. I have also finally gotten the motivation to work out. I don't know what took me so long because it feels great! My goal is to at least work out half an hour and get some circulation in my blood. I don't have like a routine but doing 15 mins of cardio like running or elliptical then some various circuit training.

I know there are many women that use "I had babies" as an excuse to gaining weight. But I want everyone to know it's okay to use that excuse for the time of being overwhelmed by motherhood. But I have come to learn that what you do with your health habits, mothers are THE biggest influence. I would assume that it has to with the fact that we are the ones that not only nurture but also educate both intentionally and unintentionally. I've been blessed with my mother being such a great example for me. As long as I can remember she would get up and work out, then make breakfast all before we left for school. Then she would shower and get set for her day. Although I haven't gotten into that routine yet (I can barely get up before 9) I know I'm working towards it. All I know is that being healthy is one that is extremely important to me. I want to do every activity with my children like basketball, hiking, swimming.

So how to start?

Make small changes.

-I started by drinking more water on purpose. (try look up basic info on soda. Very interesting especially how it affects kids)

- Working out cause my legs were hurting from not doing anything

What inspires you to stay motivated to have healthy habits??